thirty, flirty and thriving

Today is the last day of my twenties! haha! Amazing, absolutely, amazing.

I honestly, could not be more stoked about turning thirty. I truly feel so in love with where I am at in life, and with the totally rad woman I have become.

The other day the weather was perfect – the sun was shining and the temperature was 25 degrees. I went for a walk and I went passed a willow tree. The sun was shining right through its droopy branches, and I stood there soaking in the sunshine. I couldn’t help but fall in love with this moment.

Happiness, pure happiness filled my soul. The only thought I had was, if I never accomplish anything else in my life, it would not matter, because this moment makes life worth living.

What a beautiful thought eh?

And it is with that unattached sense of happiness and love for simple moments that I end my twenties and start on the next path of my journey.

My twenties were pretty epic. Before I turned 21, I completed my original bucket list. I did things that most people will never get the chance to do. I met amazing people, explored the corners of our world, build my own business and tried new experience after new experience.

But most importantly, all throughout my twenties I listened to my heart and forged my own path. I did what I felt was best in every moment, I gave it my all, and for that I am very grateful.

It wasn’t all roses, sunshine and adventures. I had my heart broken numerous times, fell out of touch with dear friends, grieved the death of loved ones, felt the painful, embarrassing sting of failure, healed from trauma, dealt with anxiety, OCD and an eating disorder, and put up with toxic people and environments.

Some moments, days, and months, of my twenties were awful. I was stressed and crying, and wanted to give up so many times, but I didn’t.

Honestly I am grateful for it all. I overcame every hurled, I fought for myself and the life that I want to live – the life that I deserve to live. Without all the struggle and all the blessings, I would not be who I am today, and that would be the most tragic thing.

I am not the same person I was at 20. In away I feel like I have gotten back to my true self, who I was before all the conditioning from society, who I was before the world tried to mold me, who I was born to be.

I am so proud of myself. Well done, Cass!

All of the good and all of the bad made my twenties a unique adventure and taught me more than I could have ever hoped. And as I start out on this new and exciting road ahead of me, I have a very strong belief that I will be able to accomplish all that I sent out to accomplish.

I have this strong feeling like something magical is unfolding in my life, and I feel blessed, loved and supported.

As I move into my thirties, there are a few things that I want more of and a few that I want less of, so I can truly be thirty, flirty and thriving! Here is my list of 30 things that I want more or less of over the next decade.

thirty, flirty and thriving More and Less list

1. More art. I AM AN ARTIST. I have never felt good enough to call myself an artist, but fuck that. I AM A VERY TALENTED ARTIST. I have this strong urge to embrace the artist in me. I feel like I am and always have been an artist, but I have been putting on different roles to live in the wild society we have created. I will be pursuing more creative projections during the next ten years. Not content creation projections, but pure artistic expression. I will be writing fiction novels, poetry, working on photo projects and more.
2. Less “girl boss” energy. I have loved building a business, but I no longer feel joy when I hustle and push myself to accomplish everything I my to do list. I want more of a soft approach to everything in life. I don’t want to turn everything I love into a side project, I want to just enjoy some things simple because I love them.
3. More water. I love water. I want more water in every way, drinking more water, swimming more, kayaking, surfing, sitting by a lake, just more and more water.
4. More nature. I want to be outside in nature as much as possible. Soaking the sun’s rays, walking barefoot in the earth, dancing under the moon.
5. Less distracted living. I am no longer interested in doing things just for the sake of doing something.
6. More intentional living. Life is better when we are fully intentional with our choices.
7. Less alcohol. Getting drunk is completely overrated, and keeps you distracted from loving life. I stopped drinking a lot in the pandemic, and this year I decided I would cut it out of my life for good, and it is amazing. 10/10 would recommend.
8. More travel. Traveling is my favorite way to live. I have a free spirit and a wandering soul, and I welcome more travel opportunities in my thirties.
9. Less bitterness. If you are into human design, you will be familiar with the five types of people. I am a projector. And the clear sign that projectors are not living to their potential or doing something that is not aligned with them is when they feel bitter. So less bitterness for me please.
10. More success. The sign that projectors are living their best lives is success. So I am calling in more success for me in every area of my life.
11. More fantasy. I am a huge nerd. I have been my whole life, and I for some reason, stopped enjoying fantasy books and shows for a good chunk of my teens and twenties, I probably thought it wasn’t cool. Clearly, I was wrong, because dragons, vampires and fae are so cool. Getting back to my true self means totally nerding out on all my favourite fantasy series. I also am working on fantasy short stories and novels of my own, so get excited. Fuck yeah! *insteret rock on hand gesture here*
12. More learning. I love learning. I want to learn more about the things I am passionate about, herbology, astrology, folklore, ancient history, etc.
13. More connecting. I want more interactions with people in real life. I want a community, and meet-cutes. I want face to face, hand in hand, connections. Hands, touching hands. Reaching out. Touching me. Touching you. (sing it if you know it) SWEET CAROLINE BA BA BA GOOD TIMES NEVER SEEMED SO GOOD.
14. Less digital. I am so over digital everything. I want real things. Books I can hold in my hands. Paper and pen. Live events.
15. Less social media. Social media sucks. It can be used for good, and I try to use it for good, but the effects it has on our souls and minds sucks. I will only be using social media for work. (yes, Loving Life With Cass is work.)
16. More writing. I am embarking on becoming an author, I will be spending more time writing, and I love it. More fiction, more poems, more blogs like this.
17. More love. All of the love please, in every area of my life. I want to fall in love with lovers, friends, family, animals, hobbies, books, places, meals, moments, feelings, conversations etc. (haha this could be the most Taurus thing I have ever said.)
18. Less doubting myself. I am capable of create things and I trust myself to create a life I love. Period.
19. More fun. Yes please!
20. More peace. Peaceful state of mind, and a calm soul. Peaceful days even when things are chaotic.
21. Less judgement. It is too easy to judge other people, but all it does is bring me down. Everyone is just trying their best, and their best can and will look different from mine.
22. More forgiveness. I truly believe that forgiveness is the key to healing.
23. More dancing and singing. If you know me you know I love music and I sing and dance all day. I want more of this in my 30s.
24. More deep conversations. I hate small talk, let’s dive deep. Tell me your dreams, fears and your dark secrets. Let’s chat about the purpose of life, and how to be happy.
25. Less forcing. I am done with forcing anything to be in my life. What is meant for me will be mine.
26. More flow. Instead of force, I am going to flow. Flow through out my days, weeks, months, years. Moving through life at my own pace.
27. Less harmful chemicals. The products and food that we use are so harmful for us (look up red-40) and they can lead to deadly disease and poor mental health. Instead I am moving to more a holistic, natural approach. I am taking a herb course from Wild Rose College, and I am pumped to add more natural products to my everyday life.
28. More following my heart. Whenever someone asks me for advice I usually give it, but then end my sentence with, “but listen to your heart.” People will tell you how to live, but babes, you are the only one who knows what is best for you. You know your hopes, dreams, thoughts, more than anyone else. You need to follow your heart.
29. Less doing shit that I don’t want to do. Life is short, I don’t want to waste it doing shit I don’t want to do. Period.
30. Saying yes to my dreams. Thirty is being brave and saying yes to my dreams. It is shhing the fear and leaping into the unknown.

What a list! Let me know your thoughts on it in the comments below!

So cheers, to being thirty, flirty and thriving! The best is yet to come and I can’t wait to share it with you.

Love you,